Impolite is quite literally a soft term to actually comment on the growing lack of courtesies in todays' time. I was with a colleague recently, who actually screamed on phone in a public cafe during a meeting!(and she was not even sorry about it!) Well, she was having a bad day, but it is still seen as acceptable, when people cut you short to talk on phone or keep messaging while still talking to you. (Not to mention the accidents they cause). Phones have really taken expected behavioral norms' level to a low never seen before. (They are going further down every day).
A friend who is a regular on Facebook, was quite irritated with another acquaintance of his for not showing Facebook manners! Apparently, the other person first accepted his 'friend' request, i.e. made him a friend then 'unfriended' him after a couple of days! Well, you cannot be expected to be nice to all 500 and more friends on Facebook, and not offend a few!
Being from the old school where it still is the usual norm to 'thank' the Rickshaw/ Auto wala for their services (after haggling with them, of course!), it is a rude shock to notice the behavior of people in public places.
I remember writing letters, (or rather postcards) to my grandfather starting with 'Janab, mohtaram', terms of respect I gave up long back. The four letter words part of daily lingo, accepted to express sentiments ranging from disgust/ anger/ frustration/ surprise, etc. to happiness.
As Ghalib, puts it,
Har ek baat par kehte ho tum ke tu kya hai?
Tum hi kaho ke yeh andaz e guftagu kya hai?
My cousin from London when she visited, said in Delhi people smile less to each other on the road (And if you do that, then others can easily assume you to be insane, of loose moral character and so on!)
Giving up seat on bus for a 'buzurg' or someone more needy, is something of a right for which people have to fight. It is not losing the of the good old 'tameez', but acceptance of 'badtamizi' which is a bothersome trend. It can do things for you, you can scare people into doing things for you. Doing whatever to gets things done. Ends to means. Being impolite is becoming more of something to be proud of, and being tameezdar is shameful. It shows you cannot assert yourself, if you are too polite. More of a pushover. Easily maneuvered, can be taken lightly. So, the question you have to answer is- would you rather be full of manners and be behind everybody and everything, or would you rather be badtameez and get your work done. Some people have made their choice and that is why we know the numbers are growing in which category.
A friend who is a regular on Facebook, was quite irritated with another acquaintance of his for not showing Facebook manners! Apparently, the other person first accepted his 'friend' request, i.e. made him a friend then 'unfriended' him after a couple of days! Well, you cannot be expected to be nice to all 500 and more friends on Facebook, and not offend a few!
Being from the old school where it still is the usual norm to 'thank' the Rickshaw/ Auto wala for their services (after haggling with them, of course!), it is a rude shock to notice the behavior of people in public places.
I remember writing letters, (or rather postcards) to my grandfather starting with 'Janab, mohtaram', terms of respect I gave up long back. The four letter words part of daily lingo, accepted to express sentiments ranging from disgust/ anger/ frustration/ surprise, etc. to happiness.
As Ghalib, puts it,
Har ek baat par kehte ho tum ke tu kya hai?
Tum hi kaho ke yeh andaz e guftagu kya hai?
My cousin from London when she visited, said in Delhi people smile less to each other on the road (And if you do that, then others can easily assume you to be insane, of loose moral character and so on!)
Giving up seat on bus for a 'buzurg' or someone more needy, is something of a right for which people have to fight. It is not losing the of the good old 'tameez', but acceptance of 'badtamizi' which is a bothersome trend. It can do things for you, you can scare people into doing things for you. Doing whatever to gets things done. Ends to means. Being impolite is becoming more of something to be proud of, and being tameezdar is shameful. It shows you cannot assert yourself, if you are too polite. More of a pushover. Easily maneuvered, can be taken lightly. So, the question you have to answer is- would you rather be full of manners and be behind everybody and everything, or would you rather be badtameez and get your work done. Some people have made their choice and that is why we know the numbers are growing in which category.
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